Genuine Jesus followers embrace daily growth in their faith journey rather than simply going through the motions. A vital part of this journey is how our example influences the next generation. While they may not need to know every detail of our lives, they must see that pursuing Jesus is essential. The wonderful news is our circumstances do not alter God’s blueprint. “Follow me, and I will make you fish for people” (Matthew 4:19) carries the same weight and meaning today as it did over 2,000 years ago.

Considering this, what does healthy discipleship look like in the home? What do our kids and teens need to see in our faith journey? Emily (my wife) and I are nowhere near perfect parents; we have a long way to go. However, we have journeyed with kids, students, and their leaders and families for nearly two decades and have lived in this reality daily for a decade as parents. Three healthy rhythms in a Christian home keep resurfacing in my mind.

Consecration: Be a student of the Word.

It’s so important to cherish our time in God’s Word. I am grateful every day for my praying Mom, whose devotion to Scripture inspired my journey in ministry. I want my kids to hear about my experiences with Jesus through His Word, the verses that resonate with me, and who encourages me in my faith. Spending time together in the Scriptures can feel challenging, especially during those busy middle and high school years when life pulls us in many directions. But we really need to prioritize that connection. It can make a world of difference.

Practical Suggestion: Three times a week, wake up 20 minutes earlier and spend this time together in the Word.

Capitalize: Maximize the God-ordained moments.

Embrace and seize the teaching moments that God provides. In my experience as a youth pastor, I trained our team to capitalize on bus rides to camp, walks to the concession stands, or car rides home. Authentic discipleship flourishes when we are knee-to-knee and eye-to-eye with our kids and students. Life change can undoubtedly happen on Sunday mornings at 9:00 a.m., but consider the “talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up” moments (Deuteronomy 6). While being proactive and intentional is essential, we must remember to “be still and know He is God” (Psalm 46:10) and allow His Spirit to fill our homes. Capture the moments God gives you for His glory.

Practical Suggestion: Plan a time to get ice cream with each one of your kids and allow the car ride to be the time you discuss what they learned at church the previous weekend.

Cultivate: Don’t hide the struggle.

I spent a long time striving for perfection; honestly, it was incredibly draining. I wanted to say the right things at just the right moment, using the most heartfelt and spiritual words I could think of. My intentions were genuine; I truly aimed to reflect Jesus. However, as I grew older and immersed myself in God’s Word, my perspective shifted to a more relational one.

Peter holds a special place in my heart because of the journey he experienced with Jesus. The Bible captures both his triumphs and struggles, showcasing his humanity. Despite his imperfections, Jesus lovingly told him, “Upon this rock, I will build my church” (Matthew 16:13-20). This is the kind of authenticity our kids and students need to witness—honest journeys of faith.

They can discern what is real versus what is fake, and they will always gravitate toward authenticity. While it’s important to be mindful of our words and actions, let’s also not shy away from sharing that we’re all still on our own paths of growth.

Practical Suggestion: Share a story with your kids about a time when you were their age and made a “bonehead” decision. It can be a lighthearted moment, and they may learn something valuable from it!